Class Monday was one of the most influential lecture I think I will ever attend at Purdue. The topic of pain was shared through our anonomous statements. The most common pain statements were:
1. pain from having divorced parents
2. being abused
3. being overweight
4. addiction to drugs/ alcohol
5. feeling unworthy and useless
The most important lesson gained from these statements was the importance and influence parents have on their children. It was obvious that parents created the majority of the pain discussed. Even at the ages of 20 + we look so carefully at our relationship with our parents. As a parent it seems you must do 100 good things to counter act 1 bad thing. The effort and attention I will give to my children will be with love and lessons. I will protect them from abuse, broken relationships, and pain suppressors.
During lecture I was sitting next to a fellow classmate who's pain statement was discussed. It was specifically in reference to being abused as a child. Just discussing her pain statement created great emotion and pain once again. Uncontrolably she began to cry. Post lecture she asked if we could sometime discuss class. I said absolutely. During this talk i will sit and listen. I will not provide advice I will do my best just to be a support system I believe she has been lacking for many years.
Dr. Feinberg, is talking about our pain a coping mechanism or does it create more damage?
Overall, what was the point to the lecture? If I had to guess it would be to understand we all have pain and it is more intense than we portray in addition to how to be an excellent parent or oppositely, what not to do as a parent.
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